So I recently browsed through section of Waterstone’s (UK Bookstore) and came across this book: “Get The Guy” by Matthew Hussey. I was intrigued by the title and a bit sceptical “What a bold statement…so you have all the answers huh?” but flipped through it regardless and found myself reading for about 10 minutes! It actually seemed quite interesting – it was targeted at women but gives you relationship advice from a male perspective. I wanted to read the rest so I thought I’d get it. Online. (Couldn’t have the cashier knowing I’m buying a book on snagging a guy *cringe* – all women should be able to do this naturally right?)
I started reading it on the train, all the while blushing and trying so to cover up the title hoping no one saw it (as I said the title is what caught my eye – it’s bold and huge – if it caught my eye, it will surely catch other people’s, then they’d look up to see who is reading it….ridiculous to be embarrassed, I know, but I was – I guess I didn’t want anyone to think I needed the book, I’m still young!). I read the rest in the comfort of my own home and just had to share (so I can’t read it on a train, yet I have no problem writing about the fact that I’m reading it and sharing it with the world. Weird.)
The thing is I’m actually not too fussed about my love life. I have always been the ‘when it happens, it will happen‘ kind of person (but not overly so, I’m still aware that if you sit at home, nothing will happen). I had the dream of my Prince Charming coming along in a chance encounter and sweeping me away but as you get older you realise that there is only a limited amount of time that this mentality can be sustained for before you get to that panic stage of “OMG where is he???” Why am I still single?!”. Time is ticking down and I’ve become even more aware of it now that everyone around me is getting engaged left, right and centre. This book unfortunately busts my little fairytale bubble and tells you to get out there! – chance encounters are all well and good but you’re more likely to meet someone by creating situations in which you can meet someone.
I like the way the author put the advice into three parts: ‘Find the Guy‘ (about meeting more men, finding the right guy and starting relationships), ‘Get the Guy‘ (deepening connections with guys you could potentially have long-term relationships with) and ‘Keep the Guy‘ (maintaining a relationship once you’ve got him). He even gives you video tips (on his website), to demonstrate what he is talking about. The advice is sound and there are no sleazy lines such as ‘wear a low-cut top’. He covers topic such as “Where are all the good guys?”, ‘Creating a great date’ and “Is he Mr Right?”
As much as you learn things from one perspective, having the other side is brilliant. He actually started out coaching men on how to find the right woman so although this book is for women, he might have other things on his site (and in his seminars) that are useful for men.
I believe you should prepare yourself to be ‘the one’ before you meet ‘the one’ so I do read books on relationships and attend seminars etc from time to time, so this book could be a good investment. Wise people learn from other people and learn most from other people’s mistakes – get all the advice you can and make life easy for yourself. I’m not worried about it. Yet. I might try some of the tips out though, let’s see how effective they are ;-).
He also has a TV show coming out on NBC called “Ready for Love” produced by Eva Longoria, so I’ll check that out too.
Have you read any good relationship books? If you’re single what do you do to be content with it?
Good thing of the day: Preparation is key, even for relationships. Great book.