28/02/2013: Not so great moment/ Communication

A moment of everyday every week?

Unfortunately, not every moment of the day is good.

Today I will remember the big argument that came out of nowhere, for no reason. Well, that’s what I think.

Life is never just rosy, in families, we all argue with each other at times (if you don’t somebody must be seriously passive aggressive or a genius..If it’s the latter let me in on how?!) but we all still love each other. You can argue with good friends too (although I hardly do so…we just agree to disagree). A lot of arguments can be avoided by either good, clear communication or tolerance.

In this case, lack of clear communication was the culprit. What I was saying was misinterpreted by the other party and vice versa.

I believe it’s good to take time to reflect after an argument then go back to the person when you’re both calm and without interrupting calmly hear the other person out because in the heat of the moment nobody is really listening, you’re probably just trying to win.

I was so surprised because what I had said should really not have sparked anything but after talking about it I could understand where they were coming from and why they had felt hurt by it.

Half the time we forget what we’ve argued about in the end.

Good thing of the day: Had a pleasant day despite the end.


27/02/2013: Mentor Magic


A conversation with someone older, wiser and more knowledgable than yourself can always lead to good things. I had a catch up with my mentor today and we discussed how far I had come in the months we had been meeting.

In the summer of last year I did ‘The Enterprise Programme‘ which is run by The Prince’s Trust as I had a business idea I wanted to explore. The program is run by for young people ages 18-30 who are unemployed and seeking to find out if self-employment is right for them and at the end you are put in touch with a mentor who’s role is to help you decide what to do next. This course was great, I learnt a lot and  wish I had done it earlier. It was however, good that I didn’t because I would not have met my mentor!

I think my mentor was heaven-sent. We have so many things in common although we are years apart in age and I believe that talking to someone who can give an objective view of my situation has really helped me. I have been able to discuss and think about things I hadn’t thought about before and get guidance and an opinion on what to do.

A lot has changed since we began meeting. I was so lost and unfocused when we started, really worried about what I was, had been and would be doing in terms of career. I had so many ideas but wasn’t acting on any of them out of fear, lack of motivation, discouragement and just not feeling good enough. I had been trying on my own to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, figure out where my passions lay, progress with a business idea etc but I had lost the motivation and clarity that having a set purpose and stable environment i.e. getting a degree at University, gives you. I had thrown off the structure set by another, to step out and do my own thing, but I was finding that creating my own structure and walking my own path was proving to be to be much harder than I thought.

With the help of my mentor I have been able to clarify and compartmentalise all of these thoughts and ideas and truly get to the heart of what is important to me and should be important to me. I feel more focused and ready to go. I’m not completely there yet but talking it out has built my confidence back up and helped me to realise what I need and want to do.

I made contact with my mentor through an organisation but I believe that it is important to have a mentor regardless of your situation and in all areas of life. Someone who is wise, trustworthy, able to listen and guide you in the right direction. Someone who has been there, done that and everything in-between. Someone who you can talk to, who will be honest and open with you and is not just there to stroke your ego.

For me having someone outside my family and usual circle helped. We built up trust over time and it worked. This might not be the best method for you and if you know the person already that can be even better but getting a mentor is a great thing you should consider.

I am so excited about this year the things and projects I am GOING to do. The focus is back, I just need to act!

Do you have a mentor or someone you share ideas with?

Good thing of the day: Great catch up with my mentor. Motivation for the month ahead.